The job of guiding humans through growing up is frustrating and itâs so easy to let our frustrations with parenting affect our precious kids, but it doesnât have to be that way.
Weâve all raised our voices and lost our tempers when weâre past exasperation and then we feel terrible afterwards. But if we try to remember that our kids are struggling, even if it seems like theyâre doing something on purpose, and that weâre there to help them, we can stop yelling and actually help our little ones.
Most kids want to do the right thing, they just canât always manage their immediate impulses. So if we get down on the kidâs level and say something like: âI can see that you want to do your personal best right now. How can I help with that?â instead of yelling at them, itâs more effective and doesnât humiliate or shame them into doing what we want them to do.
So reassuring our kids weâre there for them and reminding them that we want them to do their best helps motivate them the right way. And it saves your voice and possibly your sanity. Unless yelling or fear-based motivation is working for you, then carry on, mama.